As I may have mentioned, when we put The Baby down to sleep, night or nap, we swaddle her and use a nuk. These have always worked fine, and because they're used almost universally by parents, we've never worried about it.
I'm starting to worry.
In the past, she didn't necessarily like to be swaddled, but she quickly made her peace with it and calmed down, usually without any kind of struggle. She struggles mightily and often vocally now. She even knows when it's coming. As soon as I lay her down on top of it, she scrunches her face up and starts to protest. And she's stronger now. I can't swaddle her tightly enough to keep her from working a hand or two up out the top, where it then proceeds to knock her nuk out. And therein lies the rub. When the time comes to unswaddle her for sleep, WHAT WILL SHE DO WITH HER HANDS? Right now they don't comfort her. She just knocks her nuk out and then tries to get both fists fully into her mouth. When she fails at that, it really pisses her off, so she tries even harder. If I put the nuk back in, she knocks it back out, so strong is the desire to get both hands into her mouth at once. If I time her sleep PERFECTLY, she falls asleep quickly enough that the nuk stays in and the hands stay swaddled, but the window of time during which she is perfectly tired is about three seconds (fuck you Dr. Weissbluth and your goddamn smug advice about timing) and I rarely hit it right. So the only solution now is to sit with my hand on her chest, holding her hands down, until she's asleep. Already I know this is not sustainable, and we're still swaddling her! What the fuck happens when we stop swaddling her?